Finding Peace and Healing During the Holidays

A Time for Reflection and Gratitude

Well, here we are again: Christmas is just days away, and the end of the year is fast approaching! I remember how hard it was to leave behind 2023, the year our son died. I dreaded the stroke of midnight, knowing that year was gone. With it came the painful realization that time was moving on without our dear son, Christopher.

During this time of year, it can be challenging to feel thankful or positive. For me, like many others, it is also a time to look back and reflect on the year.

I do have so much to be thankful for. Shortly after the beginning of 2025, I found myself sitting in a lodge, sifting through my emails while waiting for my husband and daughter to take a break from skiing. An interesting email caught my eye about a retreat for grieving moms. I opened it and tried to search my memory for my connection to Sacred Sorrows. Obviously, at some point, I had come across this ministry and signed up for their emails.

The Call to Retreat

I saw that there were two retreats: one in Arizona and one in California. Living in Denver, Colorado, Arizona made sense. But then I noticed that the California retreat was at a Jesuit retreat house. I felt a pull to go there. Our son Christopher’s middle name is Ignatius, and Saint Ignatius was the founder of the Jesuit order. The Jesuits hold a special place in our hearts.

In April 2025, I found myself in Los Altos, California, at a Sacred Sorrows retreat. I was so nervous and had no idea what to expect. I remember sitting in my room right after I arrived, wondering what I had gotten myself into. Little did I know that I was about to receive an amazing gift.

Unwrapping the Gift of Healing

Now, sitting here days before Christmas, I’m unwrapping all that the retreat gave me. I am blessed to have a closer relationship with a God who loves me and only wants the best for me. I have a whole new group of women that I call my Sacred Sorrows sisters. They are there for me and pray for me whenever I need them.

I carry a new sense of peace when I think about my beautiful son, Christopher. I hold in my heart so many words from Fr. John Auther, Rita, and all the brave women who shared their sorrow and pain with me that weekend.

Thank you, Rita, and thank you, my Sacred Sorrows sisters, for bringing Christmas to me in April and giving me the best gift I received this year. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you all!

Embracing the Journey of Grief

Grief is a journey, and it can feel overwhelming at times. Each day brings its own challenges. It’s essential to allow ourselves to feel the emotions that come with loss. We must honor our feelings, whether they are sadness, anger, or even moments of joy.

As we navigate through the holidays, let’s remember that it’s okay to take a step back. We can create new traditions that honor our loved ones. Perhaps lighting a candle in their memory or sharing stories about them can bring comfort.

Finding Support in Community

Connecting with others who understand our pain can be incredibly healing. The Sacred Sorrows community offers a safe space for sharing and support. Engaging with others who have experienced similar losses can help us feel less alone.

Consider reaching out to friends or family members who can provide a listening ear. Sometimes, just talking about our loved ones can bring a sense of relief.

The Importance of Self-Care

During this season, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care. Simple acts of kindness towards ourselves can make a significant difference. Whether it’s taking a quiet moment to breathe, enjoying a warm cup of tea, or indulging in a favorite book, these small gestures can help us recharge.

Let’s remember to be gentle with ourselves. Grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and it’s okay to take things one day at a time.

Looking Ahead with Hope

As we approach the new year, let’s hold onto hope. Each day is a new opportunity for healing and growth. We can carry our loved ones in our hearts as we move forward.

Let’s embrace the memories and the love that will always remain. Together, we can find peace and healing, even amidst our sorrow.

In closing, I wish you all a gentle holiday season filled with love and support. Remember, you are not alone on this journey. We are in this together, and brighter days are ahead.