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A Blessing After A Loss

By Kate Bowler


God, we are heartbroken

in the face of so much grief.


What could we possibly call blessed?


Could we try?


Blessed are we

who allow ourselves to feel it—

the impossibility

of what was possible a second ago—

the light decision, the casual stroll,

the easy exchange and ordinary duty,

a decent choice or a nothing one,

the sweep of hours on a day

that was like any other.


until it wasn’t.


This is the place where

nothing makes sense.

This is the place where

tears show up without permission.


Blessed are we

who allow our hearts to break,

for it will be some time


for brittle unreality to release us

Back into the land of the living.


We have seen and lost

what we never should have.


Blessed are we even in the moments

when we are convinced,

absolutely sure,

that there is nothing untouched

by the ashes of loss.


God, you are an architect

and everything I have is in ruins.

Promise me that someday

something will stand

after so much fell.


Meet Kate Bowler. www.katebowler.com

Hi, I’m Kate. I’m a Duke professor, podcaster, and author with a single mission: giving you permission to feel human. After years of being told I was incurable, I was declared cancer-free. But there’s no going back. I am forever changed by what I discovered: life is so beautiful and life is so hard. For everyone.

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